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Online Education System- Its benefits and how it can be improved further

“What we do with what we have” as of the saying, we teachers made use of the technology to teach our emerging entrepreneurs, doctors, lawyers, philosophers and many more achievers. Present education system is a blessing for the younger generation; here the teaching learning process doesn’t get stuck due to the pandemic. An evolution in the field of education in a holistic way is made possible through digitalization.  The only factor which has to be addressed is the ‘Effectiveness’, since the online education system has been adopted in nook and corner of the world, how are we going to make it more effective is the challenge to be addressed?

Benefits of Online Education System:

When we talk about the benefits of online education, there are ‘N’ number of factors that pop up into our mind, the foremost of all is the safety of the students, staying safe has become responsibility of the each and every citizen of our nation. Keeping ourselves away from the deadly diseases is mandatory to protect our nation.

The second factor is the usage of technological tools, technological tools enhances the creativity of the students and creates a curiosity to learn further, children at this age they normally shows interest to which that gives output and to which  they have more possibility to explore, they tend to  engage themselves way beyond and hence achievement becomes the byproduct.

The third factor is focus towards learning, a very normal attitude of the child is to focus on something which has been introduced as ‘New’, it could be a new toy or a new book, the prefix ‘new’ plays an easy role in capturing the attention of the children.

The fourth is easy to adapt to the online environment, since the students explore many more options in the online environment it has become very easy for them to get themselves adapted to the online environment, it provides wider possibilities to learn and explore.

The fifth point is of; it saves the human energy, instead of having a physical movement to school. This online environment gives them the sense of freedom to be at home and to learn and get engaged as well. Students can stay relaxed during the breaks; they can detach and attach themselves from their routines.

Effectiveness

The strategy to make an online system effective is of wider importance, anything that has been implemented new to be monitored continuously and improvements have to be made during the course of action.

Step 1. Task tracker template: Self-evaluation task tracker template has to be designed to reiterate what has to be done as a teacher and as a student, listing of task to be done, initiation of the work, incremental progress of the work and the achievement of the same, will give clarity in the process, having good clarity over what we are up to is the power to accomplish the responsibility.

Step 2: Training : Teachers are the key players in the online mode of education hence, adequate training has to be given to the teachers in various multiple aspects like, online classroom management, engagement of students in online sessions, usage of technology tools, constant updates on the digitalization, preparation of online content, way to empathize students in online session, understanding the culture of online sessions, holistic development of students, flipped classroom sessions, teacher being a facilitator etc.

Step 3: Guidance and Support: Teachers playing lead roles in schools to act more responsibly in enriching and supporting the teachers involved in the online sessions. Teachers require more moral support and guidance while involved in the online sessions, proper backups to be planned in case of technical defaults like network failure, power failure, school managements must ensure providing good quality of technical gadgets for proper and smooth functioning of online education.   

Step 4: Continuity: Teaching and learning should be a continuous process hence the teachers to be guided with proper training in a continuous manner with proper time period intervals.

Step 5: Sharing of expertise: Discussions regarding the online sessions must happen with periodic intervals, this will self-motivate and help the teachers to self-introspect themselves, this activity will enrich the thoughts of the teachers and they can learn from each other’s experiences.  

Step 6: Newsletters: Newsletters normally convey the activities related to school to the parents, creation of newsletter with reference to the activities related to the online sessions, appreciation corner for students and teachers who do the tremendous task with reference to the online sessions will trigger and motivate the children as well as the teachers to do the best. Publication of work of the student will comfort the parent with the sense of being chosen as the right environment for their children. Spreading awareness in and around the school environment and the methodology of education will gives a sense of pride to the teachers. Making people love their choice of work will yield more prosperity.

Step 7 Communication: Communication in online sessions are crucial, teachers should possess patience in repeating and reiterating the concepts taught, hence the students who are in an emerging learners can cope up, team activities can be conducted during the online sessions for maximum participation and involvement of the students rather than an individual activities. For example conduction of team quiz through the application quizziz, usage of wakelet, padlet and flipgrid for sharing the knowledge will enhance the students’ ideologies and also motivates them to be participative.

Step 8: Connection with the right minded people: Connecting with the global teachers through various multiple platforms available in online will help us to grow and learn further in the areas of digitalization, learning should be a continuous activity when it comes to technology, teaching through technology and connecting with the world student community will make tremendous changes in the online education system. Initially the connections may happen in the arithmetic progression but future it may definitely happen in geometric progression, “Where our time goes, there our future comes”, let’s start connecting with the world.

Step 9: Process is important and not the result: It’s only the process of what we tries to do for the given task is more important than the output, it’s not necessary that we need to win over and achieve, the effort which we are putting in, involvement towards the task and loving the nature of the work are the important factors to be considered. Let’s get involved in our work with much love and let it give us unexpected results.

Step 10: Teacher as a facilitator: Teachers at times must play the role of the facilitator instead of teaching the concepts throughout the given duration, this helps the students, not only to recollect the concepts but also it provides them the sense of educating someone in the classroom environment, the bond between the students will develop and moreover they get inspired and from each other. Teaching, learning and growing together is the right of imparting the knowledge to the children.

“It is a moral responsibility of each and every citizen to be safe and secure”.  Thus the online education system plays major role in the day to day life of the children in educating, training, exploring and creating responsibility in the young minds with safe learning ensured.

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Words have power (Listen to your Language)

Have you ever listened to your language? The real essence of language lies in the way we communicate making the right choice of words. Clarity over the choice of words reveal the personality of the person. Usage of right words motivates self and peers. Let’s take an example of the words hope and believe. There are lots of differences in the very nature of the words.

“I believe you are doing well” is comparatively better than “I hope you are doing well”. If you could notice, the faith in the first statement is more than the faith in the latter.

For the question, how is life going? Answers can be, I am facing challenges/situations or I am facing a lot of issues.Obviously it’s the first statement that gives the belief that he/she will overcome the situation and not the latter.

“I am in need of help. Can you help me?” Let’s reframe this statement as; I need your guidance in completing the task, makes a difference. It’s only the human beings, who can introspect and analyze their thought processes. Start introspecting yourself asking whether you are aware of your language?

Are you deriving inspiration from your look up factors or do you compare yourself with those who were inspiring you? The way you see things has a lot of difference in the way your mind and attitude progresses.  Start comparing yourself with your ‘self’, rather than with others.

Observe your thought process, whether you would like to improve incrementally or would you like to reach the top at the earliest. Understand “who you are not?” Let’s be consciously aware of our vocabulary and our thoughts.

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Human Being + Habit = Create/Destroy

There are good and bad habits, good habits need cultivation and nurture, whereas bad habits are like weeds, it grows on its own. There is a simple trick to identify and differentiate both good and bad habits. Habit which gives you pain will lead you to growth, habit which gives you pleasure are to be considered as weeds.

Picking up a wrong habit will not take much time, for instance, you might have come across friends in your life, who sometimes challenge you to do something which might not be right, still with the curiosity to accomplish and with the urge to prove yourself, you may take up the challenge to win over.

If we could pick up the wrong habit so quickly, knowing that it might be disastrous to us, then what stops us to choose the right habit and cultivate the same to become a lookup factor? Still, never command yourself to pick a habit, assume yourself as a master and your body as a child, and start guiding your inner self through your manifestation of right thoughts, nobody is lazy in the world, it’s all about realizing the need and the sense of urgency in completing the task, for example let’s assume that your beloved one is arriving at airport at 4 am, won’t we wake up at 3 am to pick them on time? Do you think he/she is lazy?

Identify your needs and empower your thoughts. 2021 is beginning, Choose a habit which creates you, demand consistency from yourself,  let it be a new beginning with incremental improvement, continuity should be the key, wake up every day by thanking God for giving you one more new day to accomplish. Overcome your laziness, be strong in your aspirations, you are the greatest of all the creations, help yourself to reach the heights, be a self-motivator, love yourself, success is waiting at your doorstep, just move on to open the door to welcome home.

As my beloved master always quote “Either do it or don’t do it and nothing should be in between” Let it be a very simple habit of waking up early in the morning, fix a time as per your schedule, even if you decide to wake up 7 am in the morning, have consistency, conquer your body through your mind, have a determination to achieve.

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Right Vs Easy

Have you ever thought about how people achieve in their life? How is it possible for some of them to reach the top? Why is it we just keep wondering about them? Is there a way to learn and achieve faster?

As my beloved guru always quotes, ‘If a student in you is ready, master appears.’ The first step to achieve success is to possess an attitude of being ready to learn and perceive things, it gives you a lot of insights and triggers the curiosity within you to research more and this flow will not be paused. Secondly, having an aspiration to achieve in your life will push you to heights; it will never allow you to sleep, until and unless you achieve. Thirdly, be surrounded by the people whom you look up to and not by people by whom you have been looked up, the former will develop you and the later will develop your ego. Fourth, is to love yourself unconditionally; you are the greatest of all the creations. If not you, nobody can. Fifth, have belief and faith in what you do. The belief with which you begin your journey will define your journey.

There is only one way to reach the top, you need to be a choice maker between easy and right. If you prefer choosing the easiest way to the top, it might give you pleasure for time being but it also gives you guilt and such an achievement will not be constant as well. In case if you decided to choose what is right, it might be difficult and the path may be hard to travel but you will feel proud and can be an inspiration for the world.

Do you still think we require a creative way to learn faster?

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Combat boredom – Way to Bliss

Are you somebody who often feels bored? Then you should be someone who is not aware of how beautiful the creator’s creation is. The right time has come for you to change your spectacles, the way through which you need to perceive the real beauty of the environment around you and the way it teaches you the life lessons will never ever give you a sense of boredom at any point of your life.

I always believe one should be in the state of awakening to understand that there is learning in each and every aspect of our life, we need clarity, to take it in the right sense. Imagine yourself standing in the kitchen in front of the gas stove to boil the milk, to somebody who regularly uses the word ‘bore’ it is just an instrument which is actually heating up whatever is kept on the top of it, but to those with the urge of learning things it teaches a lot of lessons.

To me, it tells me, you will grow higher and higher in your life, as of how the fire is brightly glowing up in to the vessel, it signifies I have the moral responsibility to light up in others life by triggering them to work in the right way to reach the top, I should be happy for what I have and where I am in my life.  Life will be miserable; if I further go near to the fire. I should be radiant and bright. The warmth it spreads when I stand there reminds me that I must pass my positive vibrations to everybody around me.

The chimney on the top of the stove tells me, filter the lustrous thought if you have any and don’t allow it to enter within you, support others in the process of self purification. You are the best.

If this is going to be the way of understanding from a very small act of boiling the milk. Do you think you will ever feel bored? Life is beautiful and it’s full of learning, just love everything and everybody in your life. This is the right way to bliss and to get rid of boredom as well.

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THINK AND RETHINK

Ma, where are we right now? I got a dream as if I am so tall and green with full of leaves and I have been surrounded by all our relatives, we looked so beautiful together, we been happily exhaling oxygen and Inhaling carbon dioxide, some of us height has hit the clouds, we were constantly exchanging gifts with clouds with the help of temperature, we were always surrounded by good human beings who love us unconditionally, there were seasons whereby we shed leaves and gain new leaves that’s a wonderful time for us, we had our guests who builds nest on us and make us feel linger in their mesmerizing voice and the squirrels extends their arms and legs and coasting through the  air from one tree to another, the crows which gives us the morning wakeup call, I feel so positive mom, but where are we right now? What happen to us?

I could feel the pain in me, who does on this earth, has made us into pieces? What would have happened to our friends? Where will they go? They were happy and felt secured with us, I could see all our relatives too in the same situation and don’t we have anybody for us in this universe? Why don’t we get help from human beings mom you always tell us that they were our friends and we need to protect them when they come to us and we need to give them oxygen for their survival and now we have a tough time why don’t we get help from them mom?

Baby had been pleading mother to talk to her, but there were no response from the mother tree.

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SERVICE LEARNING

Service learning has to become mandatory in schools to develop a sense of servicing in all possible means and ways to the needy, which makes better human beings to become the best with values built in them. One such kind of service learning is tutoring the younger ones at schools, through this service learning process; both the student categories will get benefited.

A segment of students who plays the role of the mentor will derive an attitude of empathizing, improvement in the level of patience, commitment towards their work, sense of responsibility and utmost dedication in creating somebody, hence it gives them a life learning experience which is very important for the future citizens and it will also create a vital impact in their education as well.

Students on the other hand who get benefited out of this will definitely enjoy this learning process since the knowledge transfer happens through the students of higher grades, the environment might definitely be filled with enthusiasm and nothing great has ever been achieved without enthusiasm.

Attitude don’t care where you shape them, once shaped, it becomes an habit, either creating or destroying you.

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Exam Fear

When did we add the word fear into our vocabulary? Why do we have exam fear? When there is an effect there will always be a cause. Let us find out the cause to get rid of the challenge, ‘Exam Fear’.

Let’s take an example of a student, X. She has been attending her online classes regularly and she does the homework on time as well, but still whenever the exam dates are nearing, she is struck with the fear and that doesn’t allow her to score better, rather she tends to forget everything that she had prepared for the exam.

When the root cause was analyzed, it was observed that,

i. Even though she was intelligent, she didn’t have interest or rather love towards the subject. Her only intention was to gain scores in the exam.

ii. She failed to surrender herself to her teacher. She had her own way of preparing herself for the examination and she failed to follow the methodology which the teacher had suggested.

This clearly shows her lack of faith and trust towards her teacher. When Krishna taught Bagavad Githa to Arjuna, Krishna’s intention was to enlighten the thoughts of Arjuna and to make him understand the concept of Bagavad Gita as every teacher. The belief and trust which Arjuna had on Krishna made him resonate what Krishna had preached. The student in Arjuna had also believed his master and gave his undivided attention during the course of transformation of knowledge. The love for the subject insisted him to give his best in the war field.

It is always our trust and faith towards our guru that will enrich us with quantum of knowledge. With improved knowledge, intelligence outgrows. Hence the only way to get rid of exam fear is to surrender oneself to his/her teacher and with this divination, fear vanishes.

Surrender Yourselves To Your Teacher !! Get Rid Of Exam Fear !!

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Experiencing the Bliss

I could visualize the supreme power in the form of nature; it gives me the state of pleasure and energy with which my entire mechanism is running. The love for nature keeps growing and it manifests in the form of a smile in the little girl’s face. It insists me, I have a moral responsibility to love and take care of every human being, it shows me that I should be more transparent in my thoughts and actions as how it is; the gentle breeze is reminding me of the spirit of freedom. The pathway is telling me that I have taken the right path in my life and I should also guide my friends, the shadows of the trees giving me a message that I should also be a shadow to the needy. The clouds in the sky thanking me for not ruining the atmosphere, the air around me is giving me warmth and its gentle touch is reminding me of the language of love, the grass cutter is standing in pride of keeping the place neat and clean. The dog lying on the grass is sleeping peacefully with the trust which it had on human beings, the life lesson from nature awestruck and inspiring as well as attracting me to learn and write further. The little girl in me has lost herself in the divine blue sky. Got myself sunk into the thoughts. I think I am in love with you, nature.

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TAT ONLINE SESSION II (4/11/2020)

1. Impracticality is the vocabulary of a mediocre who does not want to change.

2. Message and the messenger should be one and the same.

3. Intelligence along with the nature of surrender is the easy way to top.

4. When the student within you is ready, master will automatically appear.

5. Doubt enough till you trust, once you trust stop doubting.

6. The closer we relate with people the more we develop a subconscious doubt which leads to subconscious mind weak and that creates struggle in life.

7. The power of the man is in the power of his mind.

8. Excellence should be is everything. (includes keeping even the laptop dust free)

9. Beliefs which we hold in the beginning of the journey, defines the journey.

10. Every good human being has the moral responsibility to become rich.

11. Financial surplus in the hands of the good people will build the good world.

12. Charity will keep the poor people poor.

13. Education and employment alone can lift a poor person from poverty.

14. I will get what I deserve through CDSIE (Consistent, directed, self motivated, intelligent effort)

15. Desire + CDSIE = Deservingness

16. Great people are somebody who does consistently.

17. Consistency is the hall mark of greatness.

18. What you do on daily basis even imperfectly, you are going to see for greater results.

19. Intelligence is to surrender.

20. I deserve financial independence.

21. Love should be with responsibility.

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THIS AND THAT

ONLINE TAT SESSION 2020-21 WITH MAHATRIA

SESSION 1 (1.11.2020)

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. Being a human, I am the greatest of all the creation; hence I need to be responsible in all walks of my life.

2. Life hinges on three relationships; relationship with ourself, relationship with others, relationship with the nature.

3. Am I doing more ritualistic things or am I feeling more close to God?

4. My life is my responsibility and no blaming is allowed.

5. Unit of measurement of life is Experience (I Vs World). How am I interacting with the world?

6. Bhagavad Geetha is not delivered to Arjuna to check the memory of Arjuna, it is for the sake his transformation.

7. Knowing is not doing; Doing is what is doing.

8. I am not going to be a typical 30 year old women, I am going to be a 30 year old where other 30 years old will look up to me.

9. Lift yourself, by yourself. (It’s only I can lift myself and nobody else)

10. Greatest pride is of growing in our own eyes.

11. Transformation leads to change and change leads to transitions and transitions are never comfortable.

12. There is no easy way to the TOP and people those who have achieved has achieved only by working hard.

13. There are EASY/ RIGHT ways to do things and we should chose only the RIGHT to reach the TOP.

14. Attitude don’t care where you shape them, once shaped it becomes a habit. Either creating or destroying you.

15. Dear God help me to get caught when I do the mistake for the first time.

16. From today I will earn my dinner. I will never touch my dinner without doing an exercise.

17. I will always choose Mind over body, whenever I wake up in the morning. My wakeup call and my wakeup time will always be the same.

Loving you Mahatria.

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THE ALCHEMIST

“Books are the heart and soul of my life” I attempted reading books with various genre, it could be of spirituality, psychology, fiction, mythology, crime, thriller and romance, but I ever thought of writing my thought process towards the books which I read. But when I read this book “The Alchemist” I felt the need of preserving the values, which the book caries for my growth.

THE ALCHEMIST: the word doesn’t seem to be familiar for me when I first heard, that made me to attempt reading the book written by a Brazilian author Panlo Coelho.

Its about the journey of a shepherd into the desert, during the course of time he understands the meaning of life and his real self.

Points worth noted from the book.

  1. “Dreams are the language of God”, of course God cannot communicate to us directly, so what can be the right medium of communication apart from the dream?
  2. He talks about the Mysterious Force; it’s a force that appears to be negative, but actually shows you how to realize your destiny. It prepares your spirit and your will, because there is one great truth on this planet; whoever you are, or whatever it is that you do, when you really want something, it’s because that desires originated in the soul of the universe. It’s your mission on earth.
  3. Whenever you want something, the entire universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.
  4. God has assigned a path for everyone to follow. You just have to read the omens that he left for you.
  5. Principle of favorability ie. beginners luck. (Start attempting what you have decided to achieve and you will achieve, the one who begins, wins) Because life wants you to achieve your destiny.
  6. People need not fear the unknown, if they are capable of achieving what they need and want.

7.When you want something with all your heart, that’s when you are closest to the soul of the world.  Its always a positive force.

  1. Why things are so complicated in your life? So that those who have the responsibility for understanding can understand.
  2. Courage is the quality, most essential to understand the language of the world.
  3. Its not what enters men’s mouth that’s evil; Its what comes out of their mouths that is.
  4. Love never keeps a man from pursuing his destiny. If he abandons that pursuit, its because it wasn’t true love. The love speaks the language of the world.
  5. Don’t think about what you’ve left behind. Everything is written in the soul of the world, and there it will stay forever.

13.Your eyes shows the strength of your soul.

  1. It is about penetrating the soul of the world, and discovering the treasure that has been reserved for you.
  2. Alchemist – a persons who can understand the universal language.

Here the shepherd who explores around the universe, at one point of time understands the language of universe which is nothing but the language to communicate with the nature, birds and animals and even with the souls and that’s alchemistry.

Thank you for reading, Have a nice day

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My Experiments With ‘TWINS’

Everyone will be excited if they hear the word “TWINS”, yes it’s a double blessing by our creator, and most often this will not be awarded to people those who seeks as I believe, this might be gifted to people those who deserve. Yeah I am one among those.

Here I am going to narrate the moment I heard about my conception of my twin boys and my experiments with them.

My third month checkup was scheduled on November 2016, usually my partner accompany to the hospital for regular checkups.  I was called to get in to the scanning room; I was overjoyed as usual, since I have been allowed to see my baby’s image through the scanning machine at the end of the scanning process for just few minutes.

It’s been one hour since the scanning process had started; usually it will end in maximum of fifteen minutes and this time it was delayed.  I was waiting for that moment to come, but the doc has unusually took more time check, I was perplexed with her facial expressions, since she was smiling some time and later she was keen in looking into the screen in a confused mode.   I was praying God that nothing would have happened to my kid, after a long time, she broke her silence and said,  I am carrying twins, till that day I  was not aware that I am carrying three hearts within me.

I was in an utter shock because I haven’t thought of carrying twins even in my dreams too, my husband was waiting outside and I just want to reveal this to him on my own.  When I came out of the scanning room he came closer to me and asked, is everything okay? Since he could see the mixed emotions in my face, when I revealed that I am carrying twins, he couldn’t believe.  We both were in the similar state of excitedness.

We questioned ourselves as how this is possible to each other but we couldn’t get a right answer.  I started researching through various sources about twins, and here is my understanding.

Twinning rate is greater in US as per the research.  Factors responsible for the conception of twins are

  1. The incidence of multiple births is related to the maternal age of the mother, if the age is between 26 and 35.
  2. If the women is greater than the average height and weight.
  3. Finally due to the family history as well.

Degree of separation:  There are four degrees of separation 1. Monochorionic Diamniotic (MoD)i, 2.Dichorionic Diamniotic (DiDi), 3.Monochorionic-monoamniotic, 4.Conjoined twins

The first type is Monochorionic Diamniotic MoDi (Monochorionic- single placenta, Di amniotic- two amniotic sacs) it means they develop from one zygote and it splits and forms as two embryos in two different amniotic sacs and divided by a thin membrane.  To put it in common parlance, single placenta carrying two amniotic sacs separated by a thin membrane. Here the type of twin is Monozygotic ie. Identical twins (similar gender, there will not be difference in the sex)

Since they share the same placenta the risk of twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome will be high. This is also called as FFTS ie. Feto-Fetal transfusion syndrome this leads to disproportionate blood supply resulting in high mortality rate.  This is common in MoDi.  Under this case the separation of the sperm happens within four to eight days of fertilization.  This type is not possible to identify in the first month of conception, only after eight weeks it will be visible through the scanning machine. A caesarean is advised after 36 weeks of pregnancy of twins, due to the risk of death rate.

The second type is Dichorionic Diamniotic (DiDi) (Di-chorionic- two placentas, Di-amniotic-two amniotic sacs).  It means they develop from two different zygotes, therefore two different placentas with two amniotic sacs.  Here the type of twin is dizygotic ie. Fraternal twins (both similar as well as different gender is possible). DiDi twins have lowest mortality rate although when comparing to singletons it will be higher.  Under this case the sperm splits during the third day of fertilization.  This type of conception can be identified during the first stage of scanning process.

Third type is of Monochorionic Monoamniotic (single placenta with single amniotic sac).  Here the type of twin is Monozygotic ie. Identical twins (similar gender, there will not be difference in the sex).  The survival rate is moderate since they have two umbilical cords; the chance of getting tangled around the babies is more.  Because of this, there is an increased chance that the newborns may be miscarried or suffer from cerebral palsy due to lack of oxygen. Under this case the sperm splits after ninth day of fertilization.

Finally it is conjoined twins, if the division of the sperm happens later than the 12 days then conjoined twins is the result. Mortality is highest for this type due to the many complications resulting from shared organs.

I come under the first category that is MODI-identical twins.  I have the family history of twins. My husband’s small father has got twin boys and in the similar pattern we have got twin boys and this will pass on to every generations.

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LOVE + COMPATABILITY + FAITH IN LOVE = HAPPY FAMILY

 

Normally we look into horoscope of the girl and the boy before arranging for the marriage to check the compatibility between the partners.  Do you think will that help the partners to have a healthy relationship? Is it necessary to check the planet’s position to get married?  Here is the simple solution for a happy and peaceful relationship.

Yes, it’s all about faith, “The soul of relationships” along with this I am going to reveal the secret of happy family indeed, and the ways one must follow to lead their life in a blissful state.

Three important aspects in life are i. love unconditionally, ii. Forgive and Forget, iii. Having a healthy conversation.

The first and foremost is, loving each other unconditionally, yes this is definitely possible until they get responsibilities in their life, problems in love starts when responsibility knock the door of life, tackling this is simple.  Here comes the faith into picture; having faith on each other to face the responsibilities together will make the difference. If we look into the miracles of faith we will be definitely be astonished.

Let’s take the example from the great epic Ramayana, everyone is aware of the faith which Hanuman had on Lord Ram, if you could look deep into this epic we will definitely amazed. Hanuman had a great faith in Lord Ram, there was a situation the entire troop of Lord Ram need to cross the river and the river is deep enough, Hanuman decided to create a foot path on the river with the help of stones bearing the name of Lord Ram on it, so that, passing the river would be simple. Hearing this Lord Ram was surprised and asked Hanuman will it work? Hanuman replied I believe in the name of Lord Ram, and he did so, hurray!! The stones don’t sink and there is no magic which was done by Lord Ram in this, even Lord Ram was speechless when he viewed this scene, yes it’s the faith. Faith can make wonders; it has got much power than prayers.

Similarly, faith in love is essential for a happy family. It creates a big difference in marriage life indeed, it is not only about loving each other, both must have faith in the concept of love, and the miracles of faith are wordless as I have already mentioned.

Here the story goes……

There was a man and his child, they both decided to go for an outing in the late evening, they were bored of riding a bike or driving a car, so they determined to go by walk, when they started moving out, the girl asked her father to hold her hand instead of she holding his dad’s hand. Dad said, come on child what’s the big difference, the girl replied, dad if I am going to hold your hand I may leave your hand but if you hold my hand I am sure you will never leave me. Yes, this is faith in love, the girl strongly believes in her father’s love towards her.

Faith along with compatibility is also essential for a happy family.  Constructing a happy and a prosperous home is not that much easy, I could hear most of them say that they don’t lead a happy life and some kind of misunderstanding may always be present in the family between the partners.  Its all about a simply understanding of what life is, will make a huge difference.

Secondly, it  is the forgivingness which plays a key role in the relationships, one must know to forgive inspite of the mistakes committed in relationships, since it gives a piece of relief to themselves, it removes the guilt within us and it creates harmony in personal life.  We may think quarrels are part and parcel in a family life, yes it is true but what about the hurt which was created by the quarrel, it’s always good to forgive and forget. This is possible only with love.

Finally having healthy conversation clears rest of the drawbacks in one’s personal life, it is mandatory to have a healthy conversation with your partner regularly, it shouldn’t be gossips about the third person, conversations must relate to each other’s goals and the way of achieving such goals, it gives a secured feeling among the partners.

Here is the equation to resolve the relationship problems, if you could use it in a prompt way, life will be simple. I believe this would definitely help you.

LOVE + COMPATABILITY + FAITH IN LOVE = HAPPY FAMILY

 

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What makes me crazy??

I was so excited when I heard that I have cleared my demo session for handling the senior grade in my school where I was handling primary classes.  I was agitated at the same time. The thought that I am going to work along with Mrs. Monicaa Vinodh who is the senior english teacher who been working nearly for 9 years in the school.

I couldn’t convince myself. I have no reason to hate her too, still I hesitate to work with her.  I knew her as an assembly coordinator, who organizes all the assembly programmes in an organized manner, something stops me to accept her as my colleague, and due to this factor my excitement has nowhere to be found.

Weeks of anxiety went by. I started to work along with my team. Unfortunately, to my utter shock the English teacher is my co-teacher. I consoled myself that I have come here to share the values, right knowledge and of the wisdom to my children and not to create any sort of enmity.

I was left with no option, we teachers have to meet up for regular updates about the children to our vice principle and due to this I have to spend some time with my colleague about the performance of our children.

In one or the other way she can guess my thought, since I never talk to her something apart from our work, days passed by,  the one question which always triggers me is, why I couldn’t relate with her? I decided to find an answer for this.

I started observing her. She is very simple, she speaks politely, where ever she is, she makes everyone  laugh, her way of relating with people is good, her thoughts are matured enough to gather people around her always, she often creates an environment with positive thoughts, the vibrations started affecting me too.

Negative opinions started vanishing steadily, I smiled at her whenever I pass her, she smiles in return and I felt no harm in that. Whenever she walk, she walks like queen with pride, while addressing a gathering she inspires everybody with her speech, I started thinking what made me to think bad about this angel? A perceived negative thought which I had about her, doesn’t allow me to acknowledge her.

I determined, I am going to open it up this to her. I wrote all my thoughts about her in a paper, I have no guts to give this letter to her directly, and I was scared. I took a help from one of my colleague to pass it on to her.

Time has passed and there was no reply, by the time I have done with my sessions and I moved to the staff room, to my surprise she was waiting for me, the moment she saw me, she hugged me and she said, she loves me so much, tears trickled, the next moment has passed in silence.  We understood each other.

It was she who inspires me, the way she responded for my letter, I felt like how fool I am, I would have missed such a nice soul in my life, if I failed to observe her, she taught me the real connotation of love, she made me to feel good and she been a great support to me from that day to till now in all my endeavors.

Thank you Mrs. Monicaa Vinodh for coming in my life, for teaching me the right way and right knowledge and you been guiding me whenever I require.

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INVISIBLE INHIBITION

As with all of us, I was no exception when it came to interpersonal relationships as an adult. Simple misunderstandings led to major gaps in communication and ended up being sore memories. It began to affect my closest relationships and I simply did not know where the problem was. But the effect was so tangible in my daily life.

What I am actually thinking about? Is it about my career options? Is it about my future? Is it about my failures? Not at all, my mind and heart were never in synchronicity. There were so many sleepless nights. I began fumbling and faltering with my issues. I had sometimes felt totally submerged in my problems, without understanding what the fundamental cause was. I wriggled to free myself from this strange web that shut down my thoughts. The few thoughts I had, outside of my routine life, I realized were all not worth thinking of. I found no progress of any kind in my life. Neither did I know what was stopping me.

Quite surprisingly, a piece of ancient literature that my mother suggested helped. I knew the Bhagavad Gita, but had never ventured to open it in my twenty five years of living. After all, it must have no relation to me at such a stage of my life. I felt why was this book that is supposedly only for the philosophic or the aged being referred to me. That too, by my own mother! How could this text be the solution for my issues?

Nevertheless, a few chapters into the text, I seemed to have got some clarity. It seemed to me that problems were not really problems if you can change your outlook. They need not freeze you into submission and leave you in total confusion and disarray.

The Gita helped me to be softer towards happiness and sadness. As in, my response towards both happiness and sadness need not be much different. I can be equanimous. I also seemed to realise that extreme or total happiness is not always possible in our life just as extreme sadness doesn’t always prevail in our life. Life comes a full circle as we go through our experiences, happy or sad.

While the Gita gave me some peace, and to come to terms with my situation and life’s experiences, I was still not sure what was holding me back.

It was then that I attended a workshop for youth leaders organized by one of the reputed city schools in Chennai. And in one of the speeches therein, I heard a simple sentence that opened me – “No one can make you feel bad unless and until you allow them to do.

This simple adage opened me to my invisible inhibition – I was letting others, nay, all and sundry, influence me to an extent that I simply did not know who I was. Every interaction I made, even with the most important people of life, had been shaping my thoughts. And I simply had nowhere to go, once contradictions creeped in.

With this realisation against the backdrop of my understanding of the Gita, I attempted and started to become aware of small and appreciable things in life. Positiveness and Optimism became the key. I also realised my family, though nuclear, is my best source of happiness.

I was able to stop others influence my mind unnecessarily, and in turn stop my own mind from hurting my own heart. Living with a harmonious mind and heart is like breathing fresh air all the time in a city troubled by increasing pollution.

My sleepless nights have stopped, thanks to the Gita, the adage, and most importantly, my mother who set it all up for me!

Words have power (Listen to your Language)

Have you ever listened to your language? The real essence of language lies in the way we communicate making the right choice of words. Clarity over the choice of words reveal the personality of the person. Usage of right words motivates self and peers. Let’s take an example of the words hope and believe. There are lots of differences in the very nature of the words.

“I believe you are doing well” is comparatively better than “I hope you are doing well”. If you could notice, the faith in the first statement is more than the faith in the latter.

For the question, how is life going? Answers can be, I am facing challenges/situations or I am facing a lot of issues.Obviously it’s the first statement that gives the belief that he/she will overcome the situation and not the latter.

“I am in need of help. Can you help me?” Let’s reframe this statement as; I need your guidance in completing the task, makes a difference. It’s only the human beings, who can introspect and analyze their thought processes. Start introspecting yourself asking whether you are aware of your language?

Are you deriving inspiration from your look up factors or do you compare yourself with those who were inspiring you? The way you see things has a lot of difference in the way your mind and attitude progresses.  Start comparing yourself with your ‘self’, rather than with others.

Observe your thought process, whether you would like to improve incrementally or would you like to reach the top at the earliest. Understand “who you are not?”

Let’s be consciously aware of our vocabulary and our thoughts.

Words have power (Listen to your Language)

Have you ever listened to your language? The real essence of language lies in the way we communicate making the right choice of words. Clarity over the choice of words reveal the personality of the person. Usage of right words motivates self and peers. Let’s take an example of the words hope and believe. There are lots of differences in the very nature of the words.

“I believe you are doing well” is comparatively better than “I hope you are doing well”. If you could notice, the faith in the first statement is more than the faith in the latter.

For the question, how is life going? Answers can be, I am facing challenges/situations or I am facing a lot of issues.Obviously it’s the first statement that gives the belief that he/she will overcome the situation and not the latter.

“I am in need of help. Can you help me?” Let’s reframe this statement as; I need your guidance in completing the task, makes a difference. It’s only the human beings, who can introspect and analyze their thought processes. Start introspecting yourself asking whether you are aware of your language?

Are you deriving inspiration from your look up factors or do you compare yourself with those who were inspiring you? The way you see things has a lot of difference in the way your mind and attitude progresses.  Start comparing yourself with your ‘self’, rather than with others.

Observe your thought process, whether you would like to improve incrementally or would you like to reach the top at the earliest. Understand “who you are not?”

Let’s be consciously aware of our vocabulary and our thoughts.

Combat boredom – Way to Bliss

Are you somebody who often feels bored? Then you should be someone who is not aware of how beautiful the creator’s creation is. The right time has come for you to change your spectacles, the way through which you need to perceive the real beauty of the environment around you and the way it teaches you the life lessons will never ever give you a sense of boredom at any point of your life.

I always believe one should be in the state of awakening to understand that there is learning in each and every aspect of our life, we need clarity, to take it in the right sense. Imagine yourself standing in the kitchen in front of the gas stove to boil the milk, to somebody who regularly uses the word ‘bore’ it is just an instrument which is actually heating up whatever is kept on the top of it, but to those with the urge of learning things it teaches a lot of lessons.

To me, it tells me, you will grow higher and higher in your life, as of how the fire is brightly glowing up in to the vessel, it signifies I have the moral responsibility to light up in others life by triggering them to work in the right way to reach the top, I should be happy for what I have and where I am in my life.  Life will be miserable; if I further go near to the fire. I should be radiant and bright. The warmth it spreads when I stand there reminds me that I must pass my positive vibrations to everybody around me.

The chimney on the top of the stove tells me, filter the lustrous thought if you have any and don’t allow it to enter within you, support others in the process of self purification. You are the best.

If this is going to be the way of understanding from a very small act of boiling the milk. Do you think you will ever feel bored? Life is beautiful and it’s full of learning, just love everything and everybody in your life. This is the right way to bliss and to get rid of boredom as well.